A loved one has made an attempt

Know what to look out for

Part of being prepared to help someone in a suicidal state means knowing the warning signs. When a close friend suddenly starts changing their sleeping habits, general attitude, and even losing interest in some of their favorite activities, this can be a clue that something is wrong. Review the warning signs so you can recognize when someone needs help.

How to Help

Start by asking questions. See if you can bring up their lives and if they start to open up. Some examples might be:

• How are you coping with what’s been happening in your life?
• Do you ever feel like just giving up?
• Are you thinking about dying?
• Are you thinking about hurting yourself?
• Are you thinking about suicide?
• Have you ever thought about suicide before, or tried to harm yourself before?
• Have you thought about how or when you’d do it?
• Do you have access to weapons or things that can be used as weapons to harm yourself?

Be sensitive while asking questions like these, but also be direct. Try to avoid phrasing questions in a way that makes someone hesitate to answer you truthfully, such as “You’re not thinking of hurting yourself, are you?”. This makes it seem like the person can only answer with a “no” and they won’t be able to open up to you.

Talking about suicide can seem scary, as it is a very serious topic. However, when someone talks about what they are experiencing, it often brings relief and helps ease the pain they’ve been feeling.

Offer Support

Encourage your friend or loved one to get help. Speaking to a professional therapist and counselor is very beneficial. Offer to help them get assistance and if you do, make sure you are absolutely following through.